Have you ever felt like your partner doesn’t listen, or maybe doesn’t care about what you have to say?
Have you recently felt like you and your partner are more like roommates than lovers?
Has a specific event threatened your relationship?
Relationships can be difficult, and at times the communication breaks down and it feels impossible to fix. I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a research-validated therapy specifically developed to help couples reform their attachment. Research into EFT shows that 70-75% of couples who have completed a course of treatment move from distress to recovery in 10-12 sessions, and 90% show significant improvement. EFT works equally well with same-sex and differing-sex couples as well as with couples of different cultural backgrounds.
A typical course of treatment for EFT runs between 8 and 20 sessions depending on the distress of the couple. The first few sessions will focus on me building a relationship with you and gaining a better understanding of the nature of your distress. The next few sessions will be spent identifying the patterns of your interactions with each other and where you get stuck. Through this you will begin to see a difference in the way you speak to each other. You may become more open about the difficult emotions you are feeling. This sharing of emotions will help you begin to reform your attachment. The final focus will be to revisit old problems and use what you have learned to work through these. Throughout this process I will be an active participant, giving you lots of feedback and encouragement as you take the risk of sharing difficult thoughts and emotions.
If you are interested in learning more, I encourage you to watch these videos and to explore the ICEEFT website. I am also available for a brief phone consult if you feel that EFT might be right for you.